Never Say Never in Dating - Tip #1

When I read this tip, I thought YES! This is very true. It can work both ways - for the male or the female. Don't you agree?

Never say "Never"
According to my Exit Interviews with 1,000 single guys, one of the big reasons they don't call back is "The Never Ever Mistake." When a woman makes an emphatic or absolute statement, a guy begins to question a possible future with her. For example, one New York woman emphasized how much she loved living in New York by telling her date, "I'd never leave this city! My job, my family, my friends are all here; there's no place like New York!" Because he grew up on the west coast, he wasn't sure he'd always want to stay in New York, especially after he had kids. He'd enjoyed their dinner together, but the next day he decided she was geographically inflexible and didn't have long-term relationship potential. He took her "never ever" statement literally, even though one day she might have moved for compelling reasons, especially if they were married.Men shared other statements that women made on first dates such as "I would never live in a cold climate," "I would never adopt," and "I would never stop working after I had kids." A guy may eventually accept your "never ever," but why put him to the test so early? Don't shoot the messenger, but let me just say that everything is negotiable when you're truly in love and you evaluate situations as a couple, or as a family, rather than as an individual. Simply avoid those categorical statements early on, when the guy you're dating doesn't know you well enough to gauge whether you're just speaking enthusiastically and expressing a strong preference, or whether you're totally inflexible.
Rachel Greenwald