The following is a good answer and can be used for women who have 'extra pounds' and think that because of it, they will never get the guy. So untrue! It is all about your personality and confidence in yourself. And of course, a happy woman is an attractive woman!
Q&A with Samantha's Table:
Ginger, Dallas, TX: “My friend seems to get more attention from guys when we are out on the town than I do. But objectively speaking I am much prettier than she is and everyone thinks so. Why do you think she is getting all the guys?”
Samantha says: “Often times men are more attracted to a woman’s energy and her smile than to her physical looks. If a beautiful woman has a sour look on her face or her arms are folded across her chest, no man will want to talk to her. And a woman who is just average in the looks department can be very alluring to men if she uses her “come hither” eyes and she makes him feel as if she really wants to talk to him and is interested and excited by what he is saying. If you friend is getting more attention than you are, take a moment to think about the energy you are putting out there and readjust it so it’s “happy energy” which will translate into “guy-magnet” energy.”
Friday, April 24, 2009
Never Say Never in Dating - Tip #1
When I read this tip, I thought YES! This is very true. It can work both ways - for the male or the female. Don't you agree?
Never say "Never"
According to my Exit Interviews with 1,000 single guys, one of the big reasons they don't call back is "The Never Ever Mistake." When a woman makes an emphatic or absolute statement, a guy begins to question a possible future with her. For example, one New York woman emphasized how much she loved living in New York by telling her date, "I'd never leave this city! My job, my family, my friends are all here; there's no place like New York!" Because he grew up on the west coast, he wasn't sure he'd always want to stay in New York, especially after he had kids. He'd enjoyed their dinner together, but the next day he decided she was geographically inflexible and didn't have long-term relationship potential. He took her "never ever" statement literally, even though one day she might have moved for compelling reasons, especially if they were married.Men shared other statements that women made on first dates such as "I would never live in a cold climate," "I would never adopt," and "I would never stop working after I had kids." A guy may eventually accept your "never ever," but why put him to the test so early? Don't shoot the messenger, but let me just say that everything is negotiable when you're truly in love and you evaluate situations as a couple, or as a family, rather than as an individual. Simply avoid those categorical statements early on, when the guy you're dating doesn't know you well enough to gauge whether you're just speaking enthusiastically and expressing a strong preference, or whether you're totally inflexible.
Rachel Greenwald
Never say "Never"
According to my Exit Interviews with 1,000 single guys, one of the big reasons they don't call back is "The Never Ever Mistake." When a woman makes an emphatic or absolute statement, a guy begins to question a possible future with her. For example, one New York woman emphasized how much she loved living in New York by telling her date, "I'd never leave this city! My job, my family, my friends are all here; there's no place like New York!" Because he grew up on the west coast, he wasn't sure he'd always want to stay in New York, especially after he had kids. He'd enjoyed their dinner together, but the next day he decided she was geographically inflexible and didn't have long-term relationship potential. He took her "never ever" statement literally, even though one day she might have moved for compelling reasons, especially if they were married.Men shared other statements that women made on first dates such as "I would never live in a cold climate," "I would never adopt," and "I would never stop working after I had kids." A guy may eventually accept your "never ever," but why put him to the test so early? Don't shoot the messenger, but let me just say that everything is negotiable when you're truly in love and you evaluate situations as a couple, or as a family, rather than as an individual. Simply avoid those categorical statements early on, when the guy you're dating doesn't know you well enough to gauge whether you're just speaking enthusiastically and expressing a strong preference, or whether you're totally inflexible.
Rachel Greenwald
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