A photo is a MUST. And a good photo. You are picky, and so is the next guy! How many emails or flirts have you received by a photo-less admirer and ignored it? You thought, "This guy/gal probably looks like (insert insult here)!
It's true. With no photo, we are skeptical that the person is passable in the looks department. No one thinks, "Wow, this guy must be gorgeous if they won't post their pic!" And no one wants to correspond with someone for days or weeks THEN see them and be repulsed/turned off. What a waste of time!
Here is my advice since I know choosing a picture is hard and difficult and downright debilitating for some:
- go to JC Penney or some other department store portrait studio and lay down the $24 it takes to sit for a professional portrait! They will take over twenty photos of you in different poses, different clothes if you want, and email you ALL the ones you like. For only $24! And you get a copy of one that you can give to your mother! (or whomever else would want a picture of you)
Use only one of these professional photos for your online profile. Use the close up shot of your face, unless you already have a good, clear one. Then add another photo of you in an outdoor setting or at a party or somewhere where you are laughing or smiling and look like you are having fun.
If you are involved in something out of the ordinary, like belly dancing, car racing, Big Brothers/Sisters, basket-weaving (etc), you may include a picture of you engaging in that activity. But only use a pic of YOU (not a group) and make sure it is close enough to make you out clearly.
I recommended having three pics, actually, to give a good representation of what you look like. One is never an accurate gauge of the person. Two is better, but three usually gives you the best overall essence of the person's looks. So pic number three should be totally different from one (the close up) and two (the activity shot) - it should be one of you dressed up, unless the close up looks too dressy. You want a casual and a dressy and one that shows you involved in something you like (to make you more real and unique).
Any questions?
Go to it! Happy Dating!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
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